Comments on: Do you really HAVE to do anything?

By: Steve Roesler

Steve Roesler — Mon, 21 Apr 2008 16:42:40 +0000

Pam, I really got to thinking about this.

Ya know, for those of us with a supercharged sense of self-responsibility, it’s easy to confuse the “have to” with the “want to”–and even ignore the “want to’s” completely at times.

Then I got to thinking a bit more (only because I wanted to:-) :

Is the notion of excess “have to” more a product of Western vs. Eastern culture? My gut tells me it is. I’ve lived and worked in both and the feelings are very different.

Let’s face it, there’s always some stuff you just gotta do. The trick is to ask yourself why it’s on that list, do a reality check, and realize where you can free yourself up.

Now I have to go. . .

By: Richard

Richard — Mon, 21 Apr 2008 13:31:19 +0000

I’ll apply what I’m learning from my Dale Carnegie course. Change the words “have to” to “want to”. There are many things I don’t want to do but it’s necessary for basic needs. We feel we “have to” because we already know the consequences of not doing them. Changing the way you think to “want to” makes it go down a little easier and helps prevent procrastination.

By: Kimmoy

Kimmoy — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 18:34:42 +0000

Strangely enough, when I say “have to” do something, it usually mean it’s important in my book, but I can see where it pertains to those things I don’t enjoy doing (i.e. taxes!) as well. Definitely made me think twice about my vocabulary.

By: Mark Krusen

Mark Krusen — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 11:17:26 +0000

I “have to” say thanks for this post. It reminds me that I have way to many have to’s in my life. I think, although I hate to admit it. That I put too many have to’s in my wife’s life also. Hmmmm. I’ve got some work to do. Don’t I?