Comments on: Are your thoughts keeping you stuck? Time for some belief busting http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2008/03/05/are-your-thoughts-keeping-you-stuck-time-for-some-belief-busting/ Fri, 10 Feb 2012 00:48:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Matthew Cornell http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2008/03/05/are-your-thoughts-keeping-you-stuck-time-for-some-belief-busting/comment-page-1/#comment-1307 Matthew Cornell Mon, 14 Apr 2008 13:23:13 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=126#comment-1307 Thanks for the great post. Reminds me a bit of Martin Seligman's work on Learned Optimism. He talks about "natural" optimists who look at challenges in three positive ways: temporary, isolated, and external ("This won't last long," "This doesn't affect everything," and "This isn't me.") This is as opposed to what we (that is, *I*) normally do - permanent, pervasive, and personal. Refs: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Learned_helplessness http://www.shearonforschools.com/learned_optimism.htm http://jollyblogger.typepad.com/jollyblogger/2005/05/learning_optimi.html Thanks for the great post. Reminds me a bit of Martin Seligman’s work on Learned Optimism. He talks about “natural” optimists who look at challenges in three positive ways: temporary, isolated, and external (“This won’t last long,” “This doesn’t affect everything,” and “This isn’t me.”) This is as opposed to what we (that is, *I*) normally do – permanent, pervasive, and personal. Refs:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Learned_helplessness
http://www.shearonforschools.com/learned_optimism.htm
http://jollyblogger.typepad.com/jollyblogger/2005/05/learning_optimi.html

]]> By: CL http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2008/03/05/are-your-thoughts-keeping-you-stuck-time-for-some-belief-busting/comment-page-1/#comment-1308 CL Thu, 06 Mar 2008 18:15:08 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=126#comment-1308 What if the answer to the first and/or second question is "yes"... ? Specifically, I would like to go independent but feel constrained by special family health needs, and resulting lack of family support for any possible leaving of my day job. --- CL: This is a good example of vetting out unhelpful beliefs from real concerns. If you have a serious concern about an issue such as money or health care, you will have to use your best planning and research skills to find a way around it. I am guessing that with the reality that "it is tough to find health coverage with pre-existing health conditions," there may be a pesky belief that "I will never be able to leave my corporate job because of this." The reality is, many people have found a workaround for this issue, so if you change your belief and tell yourself that you will find a solution, chances are, you will! The Work doesn't magically take care of your problems, it just helps to release the feeling of stuck that comes from thoughts that surround your problem. Hope this helps! -Pam What if the answer to the first and/or second question is “yes”… ?

Specifically, I would like to go independent but feel constrained by special family health needs, and resulting lack of family support for any possible leaving of my day job.

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CL:

This is a good example of vetting out unhelpful beliefs from real concerns. If you have a serious concern about an issue such as money or health care, you will have to use your best planning and research skills to find a way around it. I am guessing that with the reality that “it is tough to find health coverage with pre-existing health conditions,” there may be a pesky belief that “I will never be able to leave my corporate job because of this.” The reality is, many people have found a workaround for this issue, so if you change your belief and tell yourself that you will find a solution, chances are, you will! The Work doesn’t magically take care of your problems, it just helps to release the feeling of stuck that comes from thoughts that surround your problem.

Hope this helps!

-Pam

]]> By: Carol L. Skolnick http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2008/03/05/are-your-thoughts-keeping-you-stuck-time-for-some-belief-busting/comment-page-1/#comment-1309 Carol L. Skolnick Wed, 05 Mar 2008 20:51:16 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=126#comment-1309 Honestly, Pamela, if you hadn't "tricked" me I still would have wanted to read the entire article because the beginning was so good, especially the part about the "SCREECH!" As a certified facilitator of The Work, I'm so happy to see it applied in this practical way. I'd like to offer your readers my free report on using The Work on business issues; it's available at http://www.clearlifesolutions.com Honestly, Pamela, if you hadn’t “tricked” me I still would have wanted to read the entire article because the beginning was so good, especially the part about the “SCREECH!” As a certified facilitator of The Work, I’m so happy to see it applied in this practical way. I’d like to offer your readers my free report on using The Work on business issues; it’s available at http://www.clearlifesolutions.com

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