Comments on: 8 Strategies to get the most from painful or awkward life transitions http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2007/09/26/8-strategies-to-get-the-most-from-painful-or-awkward-life-transitions/ Thu, 09 Sep 2010 03:28:21 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Rogene Baxter http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2007/09/26/8-strategies-to-get-the-most-from-painful-or-awkward-life-transitions/comment-page-1/#comment-1881 Rogene Baxter Sat, 10 Nov 2007 17:20:09 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=182#comment-1881 Another thing that helps when in the midst of the chaos of transition and change is to reflect on the pushes and pulls that cause the sense of fragmentation. Some of the pushes and pulls are external (new job, new baby, market changes, etc) and some are internal (fatigue, feeling loss and lost, fear of what's next, etc). Identifying these can then lead us to making choices in the areas we can control and change. Cheers to you for recognizing your own experience! Rogene Another thing that helps when in the midst of the chaos of transition and change is to reflect on the pushes and pulls that cause the sense of fragmentation. Some of the pushes and pulls are external (new job, new baby, market changes, etc) and some are internal (fatigue, feeling loss and lost, fear of what’s next, etc). Identifying these can then lead us to making choices in the areas we can control and change.
Cheers to you for recognizing your own experience! Rogene

]]> By: Andrea http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2007/09/26/8-strategies-to-get-the-most-from-painful-or-awkward-life-transitions/comment-page-1/#comment-1882 Andrea Fri, 02 Nov 2007 05:35:10 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=182#comment-1882 Great topic and one in which I can relate on a very raw level. I am 6 months pregnant, bought a house and moved 2 months ago and lost my mom very unexpectedly last month. I can deeply relate to the points you have made. I truly feel the neutral zone. Congrats and good luck with your little one! Great topic and one in which I can relate on a very raw level. I am 6 months pregnant, bought a house and moved 2 months ago and lost my mom very unexpectedly last month. I can deeply relate to the points you have made. I truly feel the neutral zone.

Congrats and good luck with your little one!

]]> By: Mete http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2007/09/26/8-strategies-to-get-the-most-from-painful-or-awkward-life-transitions/comment-page-1/#comment-1883 Mete Wed, 10 Oct 2007 16:22:28 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=182#comment-1883 Great article. The ones that fit me best are: "Embracing it" and "Carve out quiet, reflective time." I also read self-help/philosophy books that help me put things in perspective. One such book is Hermann Hesse's Siddhartha. Great article. The ones that fit me best are: “Embracing it” and “Carve out quiet, reflective time.” I also read self-help/philosophy books that help me put things in perspective. One such book is Hermann Hesse’s Siddhartha.

]]> By: Just Jobs http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2007/09/26/8-strategies-to-get-the-most-from-painful-or-awkward-life-transitions/comment-page-1/#comment-1884 Just Jobs Tue, 09 Oct 2007 18:56:52 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=182#comment-1884 This is great information, particularly for someone who has lost their job and is having trouble garnering the effort to begin a new job hunt. This is great information, particularly for someone who has lost their job and is having trouble garnering the effort to begin a new job hunt.

]]> By: Tolu Adeleye http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2007/09/26/8-strategies-to-get-the-most-from-painful-or-awkward-life-transitions/comment-page-1/#comment-1885 Tolu Adeleye Tue, 09 Oct 2007 18:56:15 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=182#comment-1885 Hi Pam: May I offer a big congratulations on the new addition to your family! Great article on managing life transitions! I relate very much to the awkwardness that accompanies career changes. I changed career in mid-life from a biomedical scientist to a people-helping profession! It is amazing to recollect what I missed most- data, graphs, and figures!!! An additional tip that I would include to your great list is learning to bring some aspect of your 'old' into the 'new' especially during those early stages of transitions. For me, it was as simple as generating graphs, data and figures from items in my new profession ( something unsual in that field). Marking significant changes with rituals is also a great idea. When we celebrate change by having official functions (such as the Navajo tribe), we are more able to see the good in the 'old' we are leaving behind and accept the oncoming 'new'. For example if a family is relocating, the members may take some time off for 'going away parties' before the actual move. This will help them to 'celebrate the change'. Hi Pam:
May I offer a big congratulations on the new addition to your family!
Great article on managing life transitions! I relate very much to the awkwardness that accompanies career changes. I changed career in mid-life from a biomedical scientist to a people-helping profession! It is amazing to recollect what I missed most- data, graphs, and figures!!!
An additional tip that I would include to your great list is learning to bring some aspect of your ‘old’ into the ‘new’ especially during those early stages of transitions. For me, it was as simple as generating graphs, data and figures from items in my new profession ( something unsual in that field).
Marking significant changes with rituals is also a great idea. When we celebrate change by having official functions (such as the Navajo tribe), we are more able to see the good in the ‘old’ we are leaving behind and accept the oncoming ‘new’. For example if a family is relocating, the members may take some time off for ‘going away parties’ before the actual move. This will help them to ‘celebrate the change’.

]]> By: Nancy P http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2007/09/26/8-strategies-to-get-the-most-from-painful-or-awkward-life-transitions/comment-page-1/#comment-1886 Nancy P Tue, 09 Oct 2007 16:08:30 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=182#comment-1886 Excellent article! I could so relate! I am in a job transition stage and interviewing like a mad woman. The problem... the positions will take me back to where I've been vs. trying something new! Why does money always have to enter the picture?? I listen to Hayhouseradio.com alot! It helps with the uncertainty of the future. Ester & Jerry Hicks are my fav.... Law of Attraction! Excellent article! I could so relate! I am in a job transition stage and interviewing like a mad woman. The problem… the positions will take me back to where I’ve been vs. trying something new! Why does money always have to enter the picture?? I listen to Hayhouseradio.com alot! It helps with the uncertainty of the future. Ester & Jerry Hicks are my fav…. Law of Attraction!

]]> By: Kelly http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2007/09/26/8-strategies-to-get-the-most-from-painful-or-awkward-life-transitions/comment-page-1/#comment-1887 Kelly Tue, 09 Oct 2007 16:03:59 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=182#comment-1887 Congrats on your new arrival! I am currently going thru a transition, and recognized the signs very well. I had left a jof of four years for a position closer to home, however the new position found me sitting in a basement in a sub standard size room - both height and depth, so I felt like I was working in a cave. I have SAD, so I needed to find another job, and did after 6 weeks. However, after the first week in the new job, I was let go "for asking questions the other person in the office couldn't anwer". She was supposed to be training me on their accounting system and basic proceedures. All, I had asked about was how they were filing the payroll taxes, as that was to become part of my job, and other person did not know. I also asked about a spreadsheet she had me working on- basically to find out what it was they were trying to accomplish. I have never before lost a job for being assertive and willing to learn new things. I am going on week 2, where I am out of work and I am still shell-shocked. I do not know if I somehow threatened the other person, or if there was a financial reason- I know the company had some issues paying bills. I am only looking for a permanent part-time position in accounting - I am a degreed accounant, and even have a CPA license, but this last experience has left me questioning what I want to do next. Congrats on your new arrival!

I am currently going thru a transition, and recognized the signs very well. I had left a jof of four years for a position closer to home, however the new position found me sitting in a basement in a sub standard size room – both height and depth, so I felt like I was working in a cave. I have SAD, so I needed to find another job, and did after 6 weeks. However, after the first week in the new job, I was let go “for asking questions the other person in the office couldn’t anwer”. She was supposed to be training me on their accounting system and basic proceedures. All, I had asked about was how they were filing the payroll taxes, as that was to become part of my job, and other person did not know. I also asked about a spreadsheet she had me working on- basically to find out what it was they were trying to accomplish. I have never before lost a job for being assertive and willing to learn new things. I am going on week 2, where I am out of work and I am still shell-shocked. I do not know if I somehow threatened the other person, or if there was a financial reason- I know the company had some issues paying bills. I am only looking for a permanent part-time position in accounting – I am a degreed accounant, and even have a CPA license, but this last experience has left me questioning what I want to do next.

]]> By: WorkFromHomeMomma http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2007/09/26/8-strategies-to-get-the-most-from-painful-or-awkward-life-transitions/comment-page-1/#comment-1903 WorkFromHomeMomma Sun, 07 Oct 2007 01:49:09 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=182#comment-1903 <strong>Life Changes -- What Can You Learn From Them?</strong> Whether you like it, or not, change is a fact of life. How can change work to your advantage? Can you actually benefit from change? Life Changes — What Can You Learn From Them?

Whether you like it, or not, change is a fact of life. How can change work to your advantage? Can you actually benefit from change?

]]> By: jen_chan, writer SureFireWealth.com http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2007/09/26/8-strategies-to-get-the-most-from-painful-or-awkward-life-transitions/comment-page-1/#comment-1888 jen_chan, writer SureFireWealth.com Thu, 04 Oct 2007 09:34:50 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=182#comment-1888 I think there's some sort of withdrawal stage as a person shifts from one stage to the next. It's interesting that you listed marriage and having a baby as examples of transitions that can put you in awkward situations. I understand perfectly. The "what will be" is certainly stressful enough on its own. Not knowing where to go from where you stand... I think there’s some sort of withdrawal stage as a person shifts from one stage to the next. It’s interesting that you listed marriage and having a baby as examples of transitions that can put you in awkward situations. I understand perfectly. The “what will be” is certainly stressful enough on its own. Not knowing where to go from where you stand…

]]> By: Meg H. http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2007/09/26/8-strategies-to-get-the-most-from-painful-or-awkward-life-transitions/comment-page-1/#comment-1889 Meg H. Thu, 04 Oct 2007 02:31:37 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=182#comment-1889 Excellent advice! Is the baby here yet? Thinking of you!!! Excellent advice!
Is the baby here yet? Thinking of you!!!

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