Comments on: How to network: for introverts http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2006/12/15/how-to-network-for-introverts/ Fri, 10 Feb 2012 00:48:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: dave http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2006/12/15/how-to-network-for-introverts/comment-page-1/#comment-3177 dave Sat, 21 Jun 2008 11:50:59 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=317#comment-3177 Nearly two years later Pam, and I still get a lot of traffic from your remarkable post. Not sure how I missed this the first time. I am a numbers person too. The following numbers appear to me seemingly everywhere I look: 51, 111, 1:11, 11:11 and 10:19. The number 10:19 goes back over twenty-five years. I first thought it had something to do with radio codes for I used to use this number frequently in radio communication. It took about fifteen years or so before I connected another meaning to it. It's my birthday. It also happens to be the exact time that you published this post. Nearly two years later Pam, and I still get a lot of traffic from your remarkable post.

Not sure how I missed this the first time. I am a numbers person too. The following numbers appear to me seemingly everywhere I look: 51, 111, 1:11, 11:11 and 10:19. The number 10:19 goes back over twenty-five years. I first thought it had something to do with radio codes for I used to use this number frequently in radio communication. It took about fifteen years or so before I connected another meaning to it. It’s my birthday. It also happens to be the exact time that you published this post.

]]> By: Dave http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2006/12/15/how-to-network-for-introverts/comment-page-1/#comment-3178 Dave Tue, 16 Jan 2007 02:52:38 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=317#comment-3178 Networking is only of value when you meet with like minds. That way you all can learn and feed off of each other. Pick events that bring you together, not the usual ones where someone is trying to sell you something. Once you get with people with the same interests as you, your shyness will disappear. Networking is only of value when you meet with like minds. That way you all can learn and feed off of each other. Pick events that bring you together, not the usual ones where someone is trying to sell you something. Once you get with people with the same interests as you, your shyness will disappear.

]]> By: Thought Leadership http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2006/12/15/how-to-network-for-introverts/comment-page-1/#comment-3190 Thought Leadership Sat, 13 Jan 2007 14:50:44 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=317#comment-3190 <strong>Why Enterprise Architects should discourage all fo</strong> A couple of days ago, an architect that I highly respect said something intriguing about me and my vast network on LinkedIn and how it may be detrimental. Figured I would analyze my ... Why Enterprise Architects should discourage all fo

A couple of days ago, an architect that I highly respect said something intriguing about me and my vast network on LinkedIn and how it may be detrimental. Figured I would analyze my …

]]> By: David http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2006/12/15/how-to-network-for-introverts/comment-page-1/#comment-3179 David Fri, 22 Dec 2006 14:15:37 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=317#comment-3179 It helped me to relax a great deal at work when I finally understood my introvert nature, both at work and in my relationships. I had always wondered why I felt like a party pooper or a square peg in a round hole. The best resource I have found is "The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World" by Marti Olsen Laney. Next I had to learn to "use my words" to say to people that I was exhausted and needed to rest for a while. All of my relationships got better when I started doing this. There were some who didn't get it, and that's life. It helped me to relax a great deal at work when I finally understood my introvert nature, both at work and in my relationships. I had always wondered why I felt like a party pooper or a square peg in a round hole. The best resource I have found is “The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World” by Marti Olsen Laney.
Next I had to learn to “use my words” to say to people that I was exhausted and needed to rest for a while. All of my relationships got better when I started doing this. There were some who didn’t get it, and that’s life.

]]> By: Adam Torkildson http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2006/12/15/how-to-network-for-introverts/comment-page-1/#comment-3180 Adam Torkildson Wed, 20 Dec 2006 21:48:12 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=317#comment-3180 Hi Pam, I stumbled across your blog through Blog Top Sites, you were on the first page of one of the tags, I can't remember which one. I found this article about networking, and I love to network now that I understand what to do and when. I don't agree that bragging is wrong. In every situation, there is something you can say about yourself that is bragging, but if in the context of the conversation, it will not seem like it. There is a wonderful book by Peggy Klaus about the art of tooting your own horn without blowing it. It is a must read for those introverts who find themselves in the back of the room at the beginning of "ok, find someone you don't know, and find out 5 things about them"That used to scare the crap out of me. Now I see it as a golden opportunity to not only market my company (The Walton Group Inc.) but also myself. We are all salesmen for ourselves first, so we should know how to do it. Hi Pam, I stumbled across your blog through Blog Top Sites, you were on the first page of one of the tags, I can’t remember which one. I found this article about networking, and I love to network now that I understand what to do and when. I don’t agree that bragging is wrong. In every situation, there is something you can say about yourself that is bragging, but if in the context of the conversation, it will not seem like it. There is a wonderful book by Peggy Klaus about the art of tooting your own horn without blowing it. It is a must read for those introverts who find themselves in the back of the room at the beginning of “ok, find someone you don’t know, and find out 5 things about them”That used to scare the crap out of me. Now I see it as a golden opportunity to not only market my company (The Walton Group Inc.) but also myself. We are all salesmen for ourselves first, so we should know how to do it.

]]> By: Lulu http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2006/12/15/how-to-network-for-introverts/comment-page-1/#comment-3181 Lulu Sun, 17 Dec 2006 04:06:45 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=317#comment-3181 Great blog. Thanks again.... Great blog. Thanks again….

]]> By: michelle http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2006/12/15/how-to-network-for-introverts/comment-page-1/#comment-3182 michelle Sat, 16 Dec 2006 23:11:27 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=317#comment-3182 great post! i love this topic and have written about it a lot (too). i think for people who tend to be shyer in group settings, attending a structured event can help -- either a lecture, with pre- or post-lecture mingle time, or a luncheon where everyone is required to introduce themselves to the others at their table. even those round-robin speed-dating-eque networking events can help break the chill. yes, it can be a little hokey, but is it really any more hokey than standing around a bar and hoping to find someone to talk to? great post! i love this topic and have written about it a lot (too). i think for people who tend to be shyer in group settings, attending a structured event can help — either a lecture, with pre- or post-lecture mingle time, or a luncheon where everyone is required to introduce themselves to the others at their table.

even those round-robin speed-dating-eque networking events can help break the chill. yes, it can be a little hokey, but is it really any more hokey than standing around a bar and hoping to find someone to talk to?

]]> By: dave http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2006/12/15/how-to-network-for-introverts/comment-page-1/#comment-3183 dave Sat, 16 Dec 2006 22:25:50 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=317#comment-3183 My experience sinks with your observation of introverts doing the large group thing. I had to do the president of an association gig and managed, but it did sap energy. There is practically nothing I enjoy more than connecting folks Pam!! The best part is when the seeker finds value and there is nothing but value here at EFCN. Hmmmm Pam, repeat that acronym a few times...wonder if we could get you on cable TV? My experience sinks with your observation of introverts doing the large group thing. I had to do the president of an association gig and managed, but it did sap energy.

There is practically nothing I enjoy more than connecting folks Pam!! The best part is when the seeker finds value and there is nothing but value here at EFCN. Hmmmm Pam, repeat that acronym a few times…wonder if we could get you on cable TV?

]]> By: erinh http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2006/12/15/how-to-network-for-introverts/comment-page-1/#comment-3184 erinh Sat, 16 Dec 2006 17:09:07 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=317#comment-3184 You are right about the bias in the business world about introverts. I work in marketing, and I tend to be more soft-spoken and laid-back than the average marketing or sales person, especially when I'm in a new job or situation. As a result I've been told sometimes that I seem "disengaged" or "not enthusiastic", which isn't the case at all. But sometimes perception is reality. As for networking, I think I am finding that it works for me if I am sincere about the connections and don't force them. Now, I may have to force myself to go to networking events and go up to people. But if I try to force a network connection with someone I don't really connect with, it's not going to work for me. Sometimes you have to keep looking for someone you connect with. Kind of like dating! You are right about the bias in the business world about introverts. I work in marketing, and I tend to be more soft-spoken and laid-back than the average marketing or sales person, especially when I’m in a new job or situation. As a result I’ve been told sometimes that I seem “disengaged” or “not enthusiastic”, which isn’t the case at all. But sometimes perception is reality.

As for networking, I think I am finding that it works for me if I am sincere about the connections and don’t force them. Now, I may have to force myself to go to networking events and go up to people. But if I try to force a network connection with someone I don’t really connect with, it’s not going to work for me. Sometimes you have to keep looking for someone you connect with. Kind of like dating!

]]> By: JibberJobber Guy http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/2006/12/15/how-to-network-for-introverts/comment-page-1/#comment-3185 JibberJobber Guy Sat, 16 Dec 2006 13:24:49 +0000 http://www.escapefromcubiclenation.com/?p=317#comment-3185 Duh, I'm reading his post right now and notice that he already brings up Ferrazi's book... I agree with him that Ferrazzi's entire book or system/style is not for everyone... but I think its a great read for people to get ideas and create their own style. I still remember my first few networking meetings where I'd sit in the back of the room and as soon as "they let us loose to meet people" I'd head out and drive home. A little shy, eh? Duh, I’m reading his post right now and notice that he already brings up Ferrazi’s book… I agree with him that Ferrazzi’s entire book or system/style is not for everyone… but I think its a great read for people to get ideas and create their own style.

I still remember my first few networking meetings where I’d sit in the back of the room and as soon as “they let us loose to meet people” I’d head out and drive home. A little shy, eh?

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